Emotional abuse in couples can have serious and lasting psychological consequences, especially since it is generally very difficult to escape from this type of toxic relationship once inside. If you’re feeling confused and can’t tell if your partner is actually destroying you emotionally, here are 9 signs to help you open your eyes!
9 unmistakable signs:
Frequent mood swings
He is all ears and totally focused with you, then suddenly, he starts to yell at you because you have done something that does not suit him! These sudden and repeated mood swings are a sign of an unbalanced personality and of a person who tries to empty his frustrations on someone else. Relationships that oscillate between moments of tenderness and requests for forgiveness that never end, are unlikely to continue in the future. Don’t waste your time any more!
Create a vacuum around you
He tries to limit your contact with friends and family because he believes they are too involved in your relationship. You should not accept this under any pretext, because if you move away from them, you become easy prey to its ill-treatment.
An emotionally abusive partner is not just jealous of your family and friends. He is also jealous of your dreams, your ambitions and your goals in life. He becomes angry at the simple idea that you are not entirely dependent on him. If he truly loves you, he will never refuse you the chance to be happy.
Repeated arguments and tantrums
He dramatizes. Small bickering every day quickly turns into big arguments. He often succeeds in convincing you that what happened is your fault, or you say it yourself to try to have a little “peace” in your home. If you think he is capable of physically abusing you in these situations, talk to your loved ones and separate from him as soon as possible.
He makes you nervous
An emotionally violent being will try by all means to make you feel his superiority, and will not hesitate to use physical violence if something does not suit him. If you are afraid of your partner, you have nothing more to expect from your relationship.
He constantly belittles you
He will never support you no matter what you do and how you do it. When it comes to you, nothing is ever done well enough. Don’t let him put you down! Promote yourself and your achievements without him!
You take care of him all the time
There is nothing wrong with doing this if you want to make your partner happy, but only if you receive the same attentions in return. A relationship that only lasts because you make the effort to make it last has no meaning, let alone a future.
You feel trapped
In this kind of relationship, the feeling of helplessness is very common. Your partner will try to control the smallest details of your life: he will check your emails, your messages, the people with whom you spend your free time, etc. If you feel hostage, break your chains and try your luck elsewhere!
He convinces you that the problem comes from you
After all these arguments, persuasions and contempt, you begin to believe that the problem actually comes from you, that you deserve to be treated as such. Do not abandon yourself to these dark ideas, it is only a tactic of manipulation. Break this evil charm! You are much better than that!