The Beetles said All you need is love ( all you need is love ) … Which is true but under certain conditions!
You may often come across a man who will only play the man and you will end up with a capricious and disrespectful kid, who will pretend to love you without knowing what he is talking about.
So what is a real man? How do you know if you have someone in front of you who understands the implications of their role or if you are once again facing a cardboard man?
It’s not always as easy to guess as you might think, but making a difference can start anyway when you make contact…
The respect
Nowadays, it seems that there are more and more men who think that sending pictures of their thing to strangers is normal or that trying to have s ex with as many women as possible is rewarding. In truth, it’s just disrespectful.
Most women expect more respect than that and no, they don’t want to send you pictures of them in bras or underwear let alone a picture of them naked at the first opportunity! A woman who knows her value and respects herself will have better things to do than accept such degrading requests. If the first contact turns very quickly around s ex without you having asked for anything, that should give you an idea on the level of the type opposite … If you decide to ignore this sign, it will be at your own risk.
Many men have lost their ways
What happened to the gentlemen? I’m not talking about a man who will pick us up from our house, hold the door for us, kiss our hand or help us sit in the restaurant either, let’s be serious, there is a happy medium.
No, I’m just asking you where did your respect for us go?
We had to work hard to gain our independence … and to maintain it too, so how about giving up these vulgar ideas of wanting to see our pants right away or sending us a photo of your junk without it we didn’t ask you anything? How about first getting to know us as a person?
We should confront them with their acts more often
Some women complain about how the guys are pigs and say that in the end, they’re all the same, not one to catch up with the other. Well perhaps, I say well perhaps, that if they dared more often to put men face to their responsibilities and their acts, things would evolve a little.
I also find it our duty to hold men accountable for their actions, to confront them.
Let them learn and get it right in their heads once and for all, no, nada, niet, women are not objects put on the ground, at their entire disposal, for their own personal and selfish pleasure. No, they are full-fledged people.
In the past, there were many more gallant guys. There were rules to be respected against women if one did not want to pass for a boor. Women should continue to uphold these standards and it is they who should set the limits.
If a man cannot respect the value of a woman, he does not deserve his time.
The right to be a woman without having to justify yourself all the time
None of this means that women should not feel free and able to express their feelings, whether romantic or se xual . None of this means that they should not express their desires, even if it remains complicated these days when we see the difference in treatment.
You know, when a woman is cataloged because she has a lot of relationships, then it will be seen as positive in the man who will do the same.
I really don’t understand why we are treated this way. Why this incessant need to objectify and belittle us.
Men tell us we are complicated and don’t know what we want
We must recognize that there is a certain truth in this and that many of us are fooled by what we think are the criteria of the ideal man.
So maybe at the start, yes, we will start a relationship with specific criteria in mind (which are very often the ones that we club in society) but little by little, we will understand that we are on the wrong track.
So know gentlemen that most of us do not need someone who will drop everything at any time, who will stand by us and never waver, who will be perfect all the time.
We don’t need an “ideal” love, that kind of connection that you only see in fairy tales. We don’t need something that looks good to the rest of the world but lacks substance.
In the end, all that matters to us is to be respected and to be with someone anchored in reality.
You don’t have to be our knights in shiny armor, to be dressed in the latest fashionable brand. You don’t have to make a lot of money or have a certain status, let alone feel compelled to buy expensive things from us or take us to lavish appointments just to keep our attention.
A real man, not a child, should just stop playing.
You are going to have to relearn what love really is
So gentlemen, stop focusing on the bad things .
Be the men we can talk to, the men who will make mistakes and recognize them; the men who will fail, fall and start again with us by their side.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable with us. Be honest, even if it might bother us or even if we have a different opinion.
We don’t want a superhero, a prince charming, a savior; we want a man who will respect our differences, see us as their equals without ever feeling threatened.
You have been warned!
