The happiest couples are not those who are still stuck in the love-loving phase. They are not the ones who believe that everything is perfect and that their other half cannot hurt. They are not the ones who walk around the world without worrying about anything because their relationship has been only love and fresh water so far.
The happiest couples are those who have gone through difficult times and survived. Those who have suffered from real problems, but instead of letting these problems destroy the relationship, they have found a way to become stronger. To grow as a team. To talk about their problems and come to compromises.
The happiest couples are not always happy. Sometimes they are frustrated with each other. Sometimes they don’t want to be in the same room as the other. Sometimes they let their anger take over.
In the end, the happiest couples are not blinded by their mutual love. They are well aware of the faults. They saw the darkest sides of each other. They united in the worst moments.
The happiest couples have been brought to tears because of family problems and work stress. They had intense arguments over the dumbest things – but they never crossed borders. They never said anything unforgivable. They never reached a point of no return.
Even when they were mad at each other, even when they were still angry at them, they still wanted a hug. They always wanted to cuddle. They wanted to forget the fight and forget as soon as possible because the other person meant more to them than they were arguing about.
The happiest couples are realistic. They do not live in a fairy tale. Their expectations are not unreasonable. They love each other, they cherish each other, but they do not place themselves on pedestals because they are only humans. They do not expect their person to be perfect. They only expect their person to do their best.
The happiest couples have gone through a difficult time or two. They could have stopped after their strongest arguments and separated, but they chose to preserve their relationship. They chose to take the more difficult path and fix things. They chose to continue loving each other even if it would have been easier to leave.
The happiest couples know what it’s like to fight, but they also know what it’s like to reconnect. They listen well. They are mature. They are experienced in the art of forgiveness and forgiveness.
Even if it may seem that the new couples who have not yet had their first argument are those who have the biggest smile on their lips, the couples who have been together forever, those who have total confidence one in the Others, those who believe they can go through anything together, are the happiest of all.
