Without worries! Introverts can socialize too!
Are you the type of person who is relieved when plans are suddenly canceled? Or, are you that person who avoids conversations as much as you can? Do you like to be in the comfort of your bed and pillows instead of partying with friends? Do you have conversations in your head so as not to say something ridiculous when you meet people? If you are any of these, then you are probably an introvert. Introverts are people who are often shyer and do not interact much with others. As natural as it is to connect with the outside world, this is something introverts find difficult if not totally incapable of doing. More often, introverts experience anxiety that prevents them from feeling confident. This may sound serious because it means that they will have a more difficult time functioning well at home, school, or work, considering the inevitable fact that you will interact with people. But good news! Just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean you have to hate social life and being alone at all times. Know that you can be outgoing too. You can attend parties and can engage in conversations, as well as anyone else. You are also a human being and you must admit that you feel the need to connect in some way. Although it may take some time to move forward, the point is that socializing is not entirely impossible. Are you ready to leave? Keep reading these tips. But good news! Just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean you have to hate social life and being alone at all times. Know that you can be outgoing too. You can attend parties and can engage in conversations, as well as anyone else. You are also a human being and you must admit that you feel the need to connect in some way. Although it may take some time to move forward, the point is that socializing is not entirely impossible. Are you ready to leave? Keep reading these tips. But good news! Just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean you have to hate social life and being alone at all times. Know that you can be outgoing too. You can attend parties and can engage in conversations, as well as anyone else. You are also a human being and you must admit that you feel the need to connect in some way. Although it may take some time to move forward, the point is that socializing is not entirely impossible. Are you ready to leave? Keep reading these tips. You are also a human being and you must admit that you feel the need to connect in some way. Although it may take some time to move forward, the point is that socializing is not entirely impossible. Are you ready to leave? Keep reading these tips. You are also a human being and you must admit that you feel the need to connect in some way. Although it may take some time to move forward, the point is that socializing is not entirely impossible. Are you ready to leave? Keep reading these tips.
Work on your self-image
Self-image is one of the most important keys to having a good and positive social life. Like it or not, we will be dealing with people who will judge us on our appearance and personality. Therefore, it is best if we can work on ourselves first before trying to work with others.
External appearance gives more confidence
Believe it or not, the way you look is a huge asset in getting people interested in you. Although it is not the main ticket to getting that social life, it will help you feel more confident when introducing yourself to other people. Maintain proper hygiene. Wash regularly, comb your hair or tie it in a bun if it covers your face too much. Use hair gel if you are a boy. Brush your teeth at least twice a day and wear that radiant smile all the time. Put on a clean-smelling perfume or deodorant. Dress well too – be sure to wear clean, ironed clothes, and keep in mind that bright colors attract positive vibes.
Personality matters too
Your outward appearance may be important but focus more on the inside – your personality. People will remember you by how you treat them or how you converse with them. And, in order to display an apple-of-the-eye personality, you need to get rid of that pessimistic instinct. Train yourself to be positive. Be optimistic and your personality will deliver happy energy to the people around you. Even when things aren’t going well, deal with a smile on your face. Don’t let the little things ruin your day. When you talk to people, show them that you are excited. Even when the topic you’re talking about doesn’t interest you, learn to listen. As much as possible, don’t interrupt the conversation and try to wait for the other person to do so. As long as there’s something to say, go ahead and share it. Always be the initiator. But don’t overdo it. Avoid talking about things that are too personal and try to keep the conversation casual. Watch your body language. Striking your foot impatiently, rolling your eyes constantly, crossing your arms against your chest, and a disappointed expression on your face will not make a good impression on other people. These gestures can show them that you are unapproachable. It can be difficult at first, but if you tend to think positive, the rest will be much easier. These gestures can show them that you are unapproachable. It can be difficult at first, but if you tend to think positive, the rest will be much easier. These gestures can show them that you are unapproachable. It can be difficult at first, but if you tend to think positive, the rest will be much easier.
Know the social groups you prefer
One mistake introverts make when trying to socialize is that they often try too hard. They don’t think very carefully about their preferences in people who tend to randomly connect without knowing common interests, likes, and dislikes. Although it is okay to socialize with different varieties of social groups, it is best to know your own preferences first so that progress flows smoothly. Think about what interests you. Do you love music, dance, painting, or anything that has to do with art? Then find people who have the same hobbies or the “right ideas.” Do you love talking about politics, current events, general knowledge, or science? So it’s left brains that you’re looking for. Why do you have to do this? When you converse with people who don’t have the same thought like you, it will be difficult to keep the conversation going. You will have no idea what the other person is talking about, resulting in awkward moments. Usually, both parties will not make a good impression on each other.
Get motivated to be more social
If you are an introvert, of course, it is a natural instinct to avoid people as much as you can. You will always find an excuse to stay away from hangouts or parties. Basically, you are a loner. But just like I said, you are still a human being. You still feel the desire to connect with other people. I’m an introvert, so I know the difficulty of having outgoing friends who constantly invite me to parties and always get a “NO” from me in return. You have to believe me when I say I don’t mean it every time. It has become routine for me to decline invitations even when I really want to try to socialize sometimes. The key here is how to satisfy your desire. If you really don’t like hanging out, it’s okay to say no. But, if you suddenly feel outgoing and social, you must motivate yourself and try. Fight pessimistic thoughts, get up and follow that urge to connect with your friends. Never miss the opportunity that positivity brings you.
Create a “how to be more social” routine
As an introvert, it’s understandable that it’s never really easy to go out and socialize. It is not something that you suddenly wake up to and already feel safe. No, we all know it doesn’t happen that way. For an introvert, the “hello” and “hello” greetings are already a challenge. Socializing for people who have anxiety requires progress, and that is why we have to make a routine that we can follow.
Weekly routine: keep in touch
The reason people with anxiety never try too hard to maintain relationships with others is that they fear being alone. They tend to think that people might misinterpret their touch as sticky. While, yes, some people may think that way because it is unavoidable, don’t worry too much. Don’t be afraid to call or talk to your friends when you feel the need to. As much as possible, talk to different groups of friends or just different people each week. Don’t be afraid to keep in touch with them, even if you don’t have something special to say. It will help you overcome your anxiety.
Monthly routine: meeting new people
Once you get used to the idea of keeping in touch with your longtime friends each week, it’s time to improve your game. Little by little, you overcome your anxiety when you talk to people and you have the desire to socialize more. At this point, you are probably bolder and want to try presenting yourself in a completely different social group than your preferences, so don’t miss out on that opportunity. At least every month, go out to different places and try to meet new people. Or meet the friends of your friends. Make your circle big, add groups of people to your weekly routine.
Learn from the things around you
To be more confident to socialize, you must also learn from everything around you. Yes, sometimes you might think that the problem is you because you are simply social. But you have to remember that people are really different from each other. What makes you laugh won’t make everyone laugh, what interests you may not necessarily interest other people as well. You have to make some adjustments to your own way of socializing. Find out how people behave in social interactions. Take note of the body language that makes people happy and doesn’t. Listen to the words people use to keep the conversation informal and healthy. Sometimes you also need to familiarize yourself with trends so you don’t get too far behind.
Do you think you can do it? Get out there and have a taste!
As an introvert, reading tips and advice on socializing is not new. But, following them and taking action is the difficult thing to start with. There are times when I even hated myself because as much as I ask people for help with my anxiety problem, I never listen to them. I bet you already experience the feeling of being inspired for a few moments after good advice from a friend, but then you lose your optimistic instinct before the day is out. Keep in mind that it is not your fault that you are introverted and have anxiety. It just happens, so hating yourself won’t solve your problem. But, as I said, it is not impossible for you to change. It is not impossible for you to experience social life as normal people do. It’s about the motivation you give yourself. Concerned people will always be there to help you overcome your anxiety, but if there is anyone who can really help you, it is you because the action will come from you. Be optimistic and avoid making up “what if” situations in your mind. Go with the flow, and don’t sweat the small stuff. Yes, it can take some progress. But, it is the possibility that you have to focus on. So with these tips and advice, go out there and try! Be motivated, confident, and connect with other people. It is the possibility that you have to focus on. So with these tips and advice, go out there and try! Be motivated, confident, and connect with other people. It is the possibility that you have to focus on. So with these tips and advice, go out there and try! Be motivated, confident, and connect with other people.
