When I was younger I believed in fairy tales, or at least wanted to believe them.
I wanted to be a princess, save me and take care of me. But no one told me that once the princess was saved, married, and settled in her own castle, it wouldn’t be much fun.
After giving up my crown, I went through a bitter cynical phase. I didn’t care about the idea of soul mates. I didn’t believe in romantic ideals or the poetry of love. I absorbed the ideals of the people around me and came to believe that we were all compatible with a number of people in this life. It all depends on who we choose to love.
Now, I no longer believe it.
There’s a reason so much has been written about this kind of once-in-a-lifetime love.
But the love of a soul mate exists. I know it deep inside me.
And while I believe in that kind of connection between two people, I don’t believe in fairy tales. I don’t find they look alike, and I think that’s precisely the reason why so many people confuse them.
The love we dream of is not always pretty or happy. He’s not someone who does everything you want him to do.
Soulmate love will never be perfect, because if it were, it would lack the necessary ingredient to be a soulmate: the ability to change ourselves.
Change only comes from opposition, and only a soul mate can be a loving opposition who doesn’t try to change us, but instead inspires change in us and in our lives.
The soul mate love we dream of is imperfect.
It is very complicated and problematic at times, but it is also in our veins, and no matter how hard we try, we just can’t give it up. It’s insomnia at 2 a.m., and a hunger that we can’t satisfy. It’s not about living a life that looks good to others, it’s about living a life that looks good right down to our inner soul.
Loving takes a lot of courage, the courage to let go of everything we’re supposed to do, including the way we’re supposed to love.
It is about loving freely so that not only there is space in our unity, but also that there is fluidity. It is the courage to stand out from everyone with confidence, knowing that we are living the life that is best for us.
Being soul mates is not a choice – we cannot choose the person with whom we feel a connection that goes beyond reason – but we choose to embark on a journey with our soul mate.
Sometimes we are not yet ready for the kind of love that a soul mate can offer. It’s heartbreaking, honestly genuine love that tears our hearts apart. But it’s also wonderful.
And that’s what keeps us coming back for more.
We all have the option of choosing who we romantically pursue. Sometimes it’s easier to take the easy way out, but no great love story ever started because it was easy for two people to be together. Greatness cannot arise from simplicity.
Great love arises from challenges and the ability to overcome them.
It is walking in darkness with the confidence that there will be light on the other side. It is the mathematical problem that simply cannot be solved. It’s not knowing how the story is going to play out, but being happy to be a part of it.
It’s not believing in happy endings, because choosing a soul mate’s love is just the start of a journey.
It is a journey of love and self-discovery that will wrap around our heart, and flourish without our even realizing it.
It is the love that we do not feel in our heart, but in our soul.
This is the difference.
