Has your boyfriend or husband ever called you by his ex’s name? Well, you have to despair precisely. Since some studies were conducted by psychologists and neurologists. As are Marcelo Berthier and David Rubin (teacher). They found that this may be completely normal.
Since our brain is divided into two parts, the right, and the left hemisphere. While one recognizes only faces, the other party recognizes names.
This explains that saying the name of your ex (in psychology) by accident, can be the result of a confusion of the brain, when identifying and emitting the information of the person. So it associates the most similar.
What is misnaming?
Misnaming is a determination or word in English that means: “the confusion of names”. This is because of the following:
This confusion happens more than anything because of how our brain orders the information and names of people. Since this one places them by sections where it can be very easy to get confused.
So that when calling a certain person we get confused by the incorrect selection that our brain makes in this storage.
This can also happen because you romantically associate that person with another. This means that you have had great affection for it and unconsciously you still have it in the store of your mind. Right in the “important” section, where the current person is.
In such a way that you make the feeling, you had for the other one similar to the one you now feel for the current one. And this is how you can get confused or say the name of a different person.
Meaning of your partner calling you by the name of his ex
There may be several meanings when your partner calls you or tells you the name of his ex, since, as explained, it can be partly normal, as it can put you on alert.
So what does it mean that my boyfriend called me by his ex’s name? If he unintentionally says the name of another or his ex in an argument or fight with a couple. Surely it was because he associated his past relationship with hers full of fights with her name.
If your boyfriend tells you the name of his ex in bed, it may mean that he associates how good he was with him or her in intimacy. So a part of him has not completely forgotten her and still has a strong affection for her.
This happens because you got used to the previous person in a great way, for all the time you dedicated to each other in the past. So you may get the name of your ex or someone x without necessarily thinking about her.
In other cases, if your ex’s girlfriend has the same name as you, there is not much that can be deduced from that.
What to do if your partner calls you by the name of his ex?
To really know what to do if your partner calls you as his ex will be a matter for each person. This will depend on how much you know her to know her true intentions.
Something basic that you can do if your partner tells you the name of another is to think and analyze “the way he told you” and “how he told you”. Look at the expressions he used when saying it and after saying it.
Once analyzed why your partner called you by the name of his ex. You can now ask him if he was confused, and what happened.
Another thing to pay attention to is when he said it to you. Whether they were in normal conversation, in an argument, or in private. Depending on this, you will be able to deduce if you should start paying much more attention or speaking honestly to your partner.
However, you should know that all people are not perfect and by default, they are usually wrong, this must be fully accepted.