Love in a couple begins first with self-love. Since we cannot give what we do not have, we must first love ourselves before loving the other.
The whole point of a happy relationship is to learn, grow, love, have fun and enjoy each other’s company.
Humanity is it not surprising? There are so many people for whom life is a mad race against time, who are trapped in their routine, always occupied with a thousand things and who spend their free time in front of the television or in front of the computer, connected to the Internet.
Or, on the contrary, always surrounded by people, but in the midst of noise and stupefied by alcohol or drugs … In this whirlwind of diversion and lack, we often lose touch with the essential which is not outside but inside of oneself!
Start by looking within yourself for a happy relationship
Loneliness can be terrifying for some people. To avoid being left alone, they accept all companies to the detriment of the quality of the relationship. This fear of loneliness is often proof that there is deep within you the fear of reliving the most hidden emotions. Emotions can sometimes be unpleasant or painful.
We, therefore, prefer to distract ourselves or become deaf with things that come from outside …
Listening to your own emotions
But if you are not listening to your emotions and if you do not take into account your own emotional needs.
If we do not accept ourselves as we are with our weaknesses and strengths, we will always have to live hidden behind a mask. By striving to be different from who we really are. But while seeking the approval of others. An approval that we ourselves refuse to grant ourselves.
Human beings do not come into the world empty of emotions. The babies do not decide their emotions. They just feel them and express them. Unfortunately, it happens that during the process of socialization, the child is ignored, hurt, ridiculed or that one seeks to abuse him.
Faced with this, his only recourse is to repress the pain he feels in his subconscious. Because the young child still depends on the opinions of others to feel worthy of love and respect.
But by becoming an adult, it becomes imperative for him to take responsibility for his emotional state. To heal his wounds by meeting the expectations of the little child who still lives in him. Otherwise, he will be forced to live by feeling an inner void that he will try in vain to fill with superficial or false relationships.
For a happy relationship, you must first love yourself
Our primary task is therefore to learn to know, to love. To value what we have most precious, our essence. As we learn to love ourselves, our desire to share our love with others also grows. Because true love is naturally expansive.
This expansive wave is uncontrollable. So our only desire is to share this love with others, without inner void and without a mask, but with fullness and authenticity.
The whole point of a relationship is to learn, grow, love, have fun, and enjoy each other’s company. Because at the end of the day, our real mission in this world is to learn to love, love yourself, and to love others.
When we understand this and live according to this mission, we discover that loving sincerely and with unconditional love is the greatest treasure to which we can aspire!
Luxury, pleasure, success, possessions, or riches. None of this can substitute for the fullness that true and unconditional love can give. But first, you have to love yourself and accept yourself.
Mutual assurance and trust
This love for oneself gives everyone in the couple the confidence and confidence they expect from the other. But instead of hoping to obtain the love of the other, and even to demand it sometimes, each one shares the love which he has for himself with his companion.
Paradoxically, he gives the other what he has always expected of him. But that he himself was not able to offer before.
Letting go and not accepting yourself are two of the main causes of failure in a relationship. Learning to love yourself really saves the relationship. To love is what is most wonderful, but you cannot give what you don’t have. As long as we haven’t learned to love ourselves, we are not capable of loving others!