Be honest and tell me: how many times has a man promised you he would stay by your side forever? And how many times did he break that promise? The truth is, if a man wants you in his life, he’ll do whatever it takes to keep his word.
It’s heartbreaking to be dating someone for years, thinking he’s the one, only to find out he had no intention of making it official.
It’s the kind of news that can leave you sad and lonely for a long time, and cause you to have trust issues with every new relationship you start.
You suddenly become one of those women who wonders if he’s getting married or if the guy is serious even if you’re just on the first date.
It’s hard, I understand.
Each of us is trying to protect our hearts from being broken into a million pieces. Healing from such a traumatic event can take months or even years.
Many make the mistake and jump straight into a new relationship, thinking that a fresh start will heal their emotional wounds. But to turn a new leaf into your life, you need to face your feelings first and deal with them like a mature human being.
And luckily for you, there are obvious signs that a man wants you in his life. It’s just a matter of realizing it and not listening to your heart all the time.
In fact, there are a lot of guys out there who aren’t looking for a serious relationship and instead want to keep things casual. These types of guys have commitment issues and sooner or later they are going to have to change if they want to settle down and have a family.
But how do you know if someone is serious about you or just teasing you? Well, there are clues that can tell when a man is really into you and doesn’t consider you a short-term fling.
If you’re like the rest of us, you’re probably blinded by love and listen to your heart instead of your head.
That’s why guys leave you first. Once you stop being a challenge to a man, that’s when he walks away from you. It’s natural for them to chase a woman, and being a little mysterious can help you achieve that.
And if a man wants you in his life, he will do the following things:
1. He shows his true self
A lot of guys like to be tough and play a good game, but if your potential partner can relax and be himself around you, then you can be sure he’s ready for a committed relationship. The reason is that he feels comfortable around you and trusts you not to judge him in any way.
And trust is very important for any relationship. Without it, two people can’t feel comfortable with each other and a relationship like that won’t have stability.
One way to see if he is showing his true self or pretending to be someone he is not is to observe how he behaves when the two of you are alone and when you are around your friends and family.
If he acts differently in these situations, it could be a red flag that he’s trying to hide something from you.
If that’s not enough for you, then pay attention to what he says about himself. Does he leave out important details about his life? Does he seem nervous when you ask about his exes or family?
If so, then he probably isn’t into you and isn’t ready for a long-term relationship.
On the other hand, if he reveals everything about his life, even the bad parts, then chances are this man wants you in his life and isn’t afraid to show his true self to you.
2. He will give you his undivided attention
There may be other women out there, but for him, you’re the only one. So if a man wants you in his life, he will only care about what and how you are doing it.
Other women will have no fascination with him. His eyes will be fixed on you and he won’t be able to look away.
His attention will be on you and he will spend hours talking about your interests and goals because he wants to know everything about you.
This guy will always make you feel special, even if you think there are much prettier women in the room than you do.
A little doubt is healthy, but you can’t let it fool you. A man who gives you so much attention has fallen in love with you. And I know you want to be a part of his life too.
There is no need for you to have a negative mindset whenever you go on a date with such a man. I understand that you’ve been heartbroken before, but that doesn’t mean you’re not worthy of sincere love.
Let go of fear and start enjoying the process of getting to know each other.
3. He will slow down for you
This is one of the best ways to find out a man’s intent and whether or not he’s ready to commit to you.
So ask yourself: does this man respect your boundaries? If the answer is yes and he is still after you, then you can be sure he wants you in his life.
He sees you as his potential girlfriend and doesn’t mind slowing things down if it means he can be with you.
A man like that understands that you didn’t set these boundaries for no reason. He knows they exist to protect his soft heart from being broken again.
He doesn’t mind if he has to wait a bit before moving on to the next level. He’s sure you’re worth the wait.
4. He will value your opinion
A man who asks for your opinion rather than rejecting you outright is someone who values your presence in his life.
I’m not talking about silly little decisions like where you’re going to eat or what you’re going to watch tonight. If a man asks your opinion on bigger decisions like whether he should move to another city for work, that’s a sure sign that he wants you in his life.
He no longer thinks about himself. Instead, he values your opinion because he wants to build a future with you.
You can expect a man like this to make it official soon.
5. He will keep his promises
As I said earlier, trust and honesty are the pillars of a healthy relationship. If this man you’re dating is making good on his promise to take her to a movie on Friday night after a busy day, then that’s a good sign he’s really into you.
After all, as he invests more, you become more and more important to him. His goal isn’t just to let you down when he realizes you’re in love with him.
He doesn’t want to let you down like that. And even if he unintentionally let you down, a man who wants you in his life will be upset about it and will do whatever he can to make it up to you.
He respects and values your time, and he knows that you are also making certain sacrifices for him.
6. He will make you his priority
If it’s obvious to you that this man prioritizes you over everyone else, then you can be sure that he wants a serious relationship with you. A man who considers you his number one priority and shows it through little things is a man who wants you to be a part of his life.
I’m not saying he’s going to drop everything for you for your every little whim. After all, everyone has to have a life outside of their relationship.
Instead, a man who makes you a priority will always arrange dates with you in advance and will never cancel his plans. Also, he will act to show you that you mean a lot to him.
You will not doubt his intentions as he will be there for you whenever you need him.
7. He will be honest with you
It’s common for men to be quite secretive about their emotions unless they’re sure you’re the one for them.
If a man wants you in his life, he’s going to be completely honest about everything that might interest you. He will tell you how happy he is when you are around him and how he wants to spend more time with you.
If you can relate to that, then it’s a great sign that he wants a relationship with you.
Everyone knows it takes a lot of courage for a man to admit how he feels. So if a man tells you he’s in love with you, you better believe him.
You don’t have to be a relationship expert to figure out he’s crazy about you.
And even if he doesn’t say he has feelings for you, don’t be discouraged. Not all men are capable of being completely honest with their emotions.
Some men need more time to build confidence and feel comfortable and secure before they talk about their feelings.
8. He will back up his words with actions
A man who really wants you in his life isn’t just going to say he cares about you. He will show you this through his actions. After all, you can tell a lot more from a man’s actions than you can from his words.
So if he’s serious about you then it’s going to be written all over him. He will do anything to help you whenever you call him and will leave dating sites and apps.
He doesn’t go after any other woman because he wants to make a good impression on you. He will delete and reject all contact with his exes and the girls he was “talking” to.
Now that he’s sure you’re the one for him, you become the main woman in his life.
9. He’ll Say He Wants To Be Exclusive With You
This is probably pretty obvious, but many women tend to overlook it because they have trust issues.
If a man makes it clear that he is dating you and only you, then there is no doubt that he wants to have a long-term relationship with you.
You won’t see him spending time with other women because you’ll have his undivided attention.
Also, he doesn’t want to see you with anyone else. He expects you to leave your past relationships behind and move forward together with him.
I mean, it’s a well-known truth that most single men like to date as many women as possible. But this guy is not like the rest of them.
As hard as it is to believe, he wants to be exclusive with you. That’s why you need to look for other signs as well. Only then will you see that he means every word he says.
10. He will make long-term plans with you
Is he asking about your future? Does he talk about his goals and dreams and where he wants to be in the next 20 years?
If yes, then this is a sign that he is ready for a relationship. Because a man who talks about his future plans has only one thing on his mind – to see if you fit into them.
For example, he might ask whether or not you plan on moving abroad in the near future or where your dream location is. This man considers you an option to build a strong relationship, so if you plan on moving somewhere far away, that’s clearly not going to be possible.
And if he’s making plans with you for the next month or even year, there’s a good chance he’s sincerely interested in staying with you for the long haul.
On the other hand, a man who doesn’t care about you and is looking for a casual relationship isn’t going to ask these kinds of questions.
Usually, guys don’t reveal their plans publicly. They are silent about them – unless they find the right woman.
11. He will tell you all about his past relationship failures
A man who wants you in his life won’t keep any secrets from you and that includes details about your past relationships.
A mature man isn’t afraid to be vulnerable and lets you know he’s made mistakes in the past. He’ll talk about them openly with you so you know where he’s gone wrong and how he’s learned and changed over the years.
But that is not all. He also expects you to talk about your exes too.
You know what people say: it takes two to tango. So don’t be afraid that he will run away as soon as you start talking about your previous boyfriends.
Don’t think he’s living in the past just because it brings up old memories. It’s just that he wants to share his life with someone who fully respects you.
12. He will introduce you to his friends and family
A sure sign that a man wants you in his life is when he introduces you to his family and friends. You might think this is no big deal, but it is.
Once a man feels comfortable around you and is willing to take things to another level, that’s when he’s likely to let you into his inner circle.
On the other hand, you should be concerned about a man’s intentions if he refuses to introduce her to any of his relatives for no specific reason. That’s when you know he’s not in it for the long haul.
Generally, men are quite protective of the people they care about. They won’t tell others that you’re their girlfriend unless they’re absolutely sure they have a future with you.
Women often tend to ignore this sign, even though it’s one of the main ones he wants you in his life.
13. He will want to get closer to your family and friends
If your man is serious with you, he will try to get closer to your family and friends.
Usually, guys with the wrong intentions come up with all sorts of excuses not to meet their loved ones. They’ll run away as soon as they see things are getting serious.
But a man who has the best in mind for you will be eager to meet your best friends and family. He wants to be a part of your world and see how you treat your loved ones.
Though, you need to be careful and find out whether or not your guy is shy. If he is, then he might find it uncomfortable to spend time with his friends.
That’s why he’ll avoid you, but that doesn’t mean he’s not into you. Eventually, when he finds the courage to meet them, he’ll suggest it to you.
14. He will regularly get in touch with you
Tell me, does your man text you often through social media or text messages? If your answer is yes, then rest assured that he misses you and that he wants to see you as soon as possible.
You don’t have to be afraid that he’s a manipulator or a liar, because he’ll always have a valid reason for not being able to talk to you when you called him. He’ll text you good morning and before bed, he’ll wish you good night and he can’t wait to see her again.
If a man wants you in his life then he will initiate contact with you and you won’t have to wonder where he is and with whom. He’ll tell you all about his plans for the day so you don’t suspect he’s with another girl.
15. He will try to resolve arguments instead of intensifying
You might think that these Hollywood couples aren’t fighting and that their relationships are harmonious and sweet. Well, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but every couple has its ups and downs.
Arguments and fights are part of all relationships – even healthy ones. You cannot avoid them.
But there’s a difference between a man who wants you in his life and someone who doesn’t – it’s in his way of dealing with arguments.
A guy who really cares about you will try to maintain his composure and resolve the disagreement in a healthy way. He won’t let it turn into something bigger.
Also, he won’t let his emotions get the best of him, so you won’t hear him say mean things to you just because he’s mad at that moment.
He will show you respect for yourself in these types of situations because he doesn’t want to lose you or hurt you. That’s how you know your emotions are honest and pure.
16. He will treat you like a lady
The right guy will always make sure to treat you like a lady. He will open doors for you, apologize for your mistakes, and he will never take you for granted.
You won’t feel uncomfortable around him because he’ll slow down to match yours. This is a sign that he has a deep respect for you and that your emotions and needs are his priority.
But if he doesn’t behave this way, it’s a sure sign that he doesn’t care at all about your well-being. If you find yourself in a situation like this, the only choice you have is to walk away from it.
It is important that you are proud of him and that you always feel safe with him. That’s why if a man wants you in his life, he’ll treat you like a queen.